“A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there is less of you.” - Margaret Atwood.
With every divorce, there are at least two sides, the divorcing two, and the things that they are fighting over. These things could be the simplest of things such as cars, house, furniture, but they could also be the hardest things as well such as children and jewelry. “Ah, yes, divorce...from the latin word meaning to rip out a men’s genitals through his wallet” - Robin Williams.
When kids come into the view of the divorce, it gets more serious than destroying the marriage papers. For instance, I, am a victim of divorce. My parents had split when I was just old enough to remember. I remember my mom getting in her blue dodge pick-up, and backing out of our driveway without even looking back at me as I stood on the porch. I was naive then, thinking that she was just going off to work or shopping, but after crying myself to sleep for the next two nights as I was laying in my own vomit, I realized that she wasn’t coming back. “I had a really good childhood up until I was nine, then a classic case of divorce affected me.” - Kurt Cobain.
Out in the world, there are many people who try to understand how us divorce babies think and react. We are all different but we all have that same understanding. We are all one person with one problem. We all are looking for that love that had disappeared from our lives. Some of us are constantly looking for it and we end up receiving damaging love from prostitution or being beaten by our “partners”. “We accept the love we think we deserve” -Perks of Being a Wallflower.
One day we might crack. We might be those kids that randomly shoot up a place to finally be noticed, or we could be those that could choose to take our own lives because the lives that we are living are not ever going to be the lives we want them to be. For every family that is broken up by divorce, at least one child is left being swapped between the parents, wondering which parent is right for them. Unlike them, I wasn’t swapped between the parents. I was stuck with one always wishing to be with the other until just a few years ago I got that wish. “Divorce isn’t the child’s fault. Don’t say anything unkind about your ex in front of your child, because you are really just hurting the child.” - Valerie Bertinelli.
“Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you” - Aldous Huxley. I am not like the others. I am not like the one’s that are stereotypically accused of shooting up a place or even becoming suicidal. I have taken this occurrence in my life and made it help me treat other people with respect and also make my writings have more in-depth feelings and the ability to connect with others that have experienced the same things.
“I am not like you, but I am not who I was supposed to be. I am better and yet an equal to you. I feel the same as you do, and yet you treat me differently because I only have one parent. I only have one parent, and yet I believe that I have more practice for the hardships for the real world. Don’t treat me differently, and I won’t treat you differently” - Kyle Frick